A CHRISTIAN VOICE FOR GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER RIGHTS: USE OF "AFFECTIONAL ORIENTATION" RATHER THAN "SEXUAL ORIENTATION"

Monday, May 21, 2012

USE OF "AFFECTIONAL ORIENTATION" RATHER THAN "SEXUAL ORIENTATION"

It seems to me that a lot of homophobia is due to use of the term "sexual orientation" when dealing with Gay people in the media and in common discourse. Unfortunately, in America, and in many other places, "sex" evokes both positive and negative emotions that mirror the ambivalence of people who have been raised with the notion that sex has magical, often forbidden, properties; morally must be relegated to heterosexual people.

And when the term "sex" is used in conjunction with Gay people, it overarches all other facets of Gay people; potential Straight allies focus on the sexual aspects and features of Gay people rather than on the love that two people of the same sex feel toward each other.

Rather than use "sexual orientation" to characterize Gay and Straight people, it would be more accurate and profitable to use the term "affectional orientation." That term far more accurately determines the nature of same-sex love and opposite-sex love! And sexual relations, save for promiscuous ones, are byproducts of affection; enable long-term marriages, be they Gay or Straight.

What makes people heterosexual is the affectional relations that they have for each other! Indeed, a person is heterosexual even if he/she can't have sexual relations. The same thing is true for Gay people! One is Gay whether or not he/she can have sexual relations!

So, it seems to me that it would be far more profitable and accurate for people to use the term "affectional orientation" rather than "sexual orientation" to characterize the intimate relationships that people have with one another.

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DC HAMPTON JACOBS said...: MATTHEW 19: 3-6

Some Pharisees came to (the Lord) to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
“Haven’t you read,” He replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made (Adam) male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

This, in my opinion, is the most important chapter of the Gospels! Not only does Matthew 19 establish which laws apply to Christians, it also explains both heterosexual and homosexual attraction! What a treasure trove!

Men and women are attracted to each other because they are basically two halves of a whole spirit that was once complete within Adam, the first human being. As you know, Jerry, this original, undivided gender reflected the gender of God (Genesis 1: 27).

Further along in Matthew 19, Jesus Christ describes LGBT folk, which Scripture calls "born eunuchs". These people are much like Adam was, male and female blended in a single body. Born of binary gender parents, they look like their parents but looks are deceiving! They are male and female in appearance only! Butch, femme, or in-between, all of us LGBT folk are Transgender beings.

Just like men and women in heterosexual marriage, they we have been joined together by God, but in a different way: A way that more closely mirrors His Divine state. And just as is the case with heterosexual couples, the sexual attraction of LesBiGay couples is governed by their gender.

Transgender sexuality is unlike heterosexuality in many ways; its nature varies depending on whether a person identifies as homosexual, bisexual or Transsexual. Sexual orientation, which our society absurdly treats as if it were an actual entity, does not really exist! It is nothing but a form of gender expression.

I would prefer that LesBiGay sexuality be spoken of as gender expression. That concept links them with their Transsexual brothers and sisters; but I know better than to expect such a change in my lifetime, if ever. LGBT folk are resistant to seeing themselves as a unique gender. They insist they are all but identical to Straight people! But German sexologists of the 19th century, as well as many Native-American tribes, had the right concept of us . . . the Scriptural concept, affirmed by the Savior.; May 22, 2012 at 10:38 AM
Jerry Maneker said...: Thanks so much for these insights, Don Charles. Best wishes, Jerry.; May 22, 2012 at 11:04 AM
DC HAMPTON JACOBS said...: Jerry,

FYI, here is how the early German sexologists categorized human gender:

Urningin (or occasionally the variants Uranierin, Urnin, and Urnigin): A female-bodied person with a male psyche, whose main sexual attraction is to women
("Lesbian" or "Straight Transman").

Urning: A male-bodied person with a female psyche, whose main sexual attraction is to men("Gay" or "Straight Transwoman").

Dioningin: A heterosexual, feminine woman.

Dioning : A heterosexual, masculine man.

Uranodioningin: A female bisexual.

Uranodioning: A male bisexual.

Zwitter: Person with Intersexual genitalia.

I don't know about all these transgender sub-genders, but I do know that humankind's concept of male and female is impossibly narrow. There's no room in it for at least half the people in the world!; May 23, 2012 at 11:33 AM
Jerry Maneker said...: Thanks so much, Don Charles. This is VERY helpful. Best wishes, Jerry.; May 23, 2012 at 11:36 AM

FROM "THE CHRISTIAN LEFT"

"It’s easy to see the sinfulness and corruption of “the world” for what they are when you spend enough time reading what Jesus said. It has nothing to do with abortion and gay marriage. It has everything to do with the lust for money, power and control. Starving the poor and depriving the sick of health care, not caring for the least of these among us, is what angers God the most. It’s easy to see why the road is narrow. The world is very efficient at convincing even Christians that its agenda is good. When people try to carry out God’s agenda they’re labeled “Socialists” and demonized."

MUST-READING FOR THOSE INVOLVED IN THE LGBT CIVIL RIGHTS STRUGGLE

In most Native American history, Gay, Lesbian, and/or Transgendered individuals were considered holy and treated with the highest respect. They were the historians, the healers, and the people of empowerment. They possessed the delicate balance of male and female, and were often honored for being unique and having a different spiritual calling. For their tribes, they were the mediators between the spirit world and the natural world. They were known in their separate languages as “naadle” (nad le) They who love their own kind, translation from the Navajo language; “winkte” (wink-day) would be woman, translation from the Lakota Sioux language; and “bade” (bah-day) male/female person, translation from the Hidatsa language. (By the staff of the Two-Spirit Society of Denver.)

CIVIL RIGHTS ARE NOT TO BE VOTED UPON BY THE ELECTORATE!

We can't spend our time and tremendous amounts of monies trying to get the majority of the electorate to vote for equal rights. If integration of African Americans was put on the ballot in each state during the civil rights era, we would still have segregation and Jim Crow laws! There must be meaningful, coordinated, and aggressive grassroots, street, and organizational activism, coupled with the filing of civil suits at the federal level, to achieve equal rights. "Separate is not equal," and that fact must be, and undoubtedly will be, affirmed by the Judiciary in regard to Gay people, as it was for African Americans, and not left to the will and whim of the majority of the electorate, for to do so demeans Gay people, and puts each and every minority group's rights up for grabs. We would never think of putting one or more civil rights of Jews, of African Americans, of Asians, etc. on the ballot to be voted upon, and Gay people's civil rights must not be treated any differently.

Christianity Is A Lifestyle

Christianity is a lifestyle -- a way of being in the world that is simple, non-violent, shared, and loving. However, we made it into a clever "religion," in order to avoid the lifestyle itself. One could be warlike, greedy, racist, selfish, and vain, and still believe that Jesus is their "personal Lord and Savior." The world has no time for such silliness anymore. The suffering on Earth is too great. - Richard Rohr

THE BIBLE IS NOT GOD

The Bible is NOT God! To elevate the Bible to the status of God, not only is an injustice to scholarship and logic, but is a direct offense against God Himself. We are to have no idols other than God, and biblical literalists and many of those who seek to counter them, both use the Bible as an idol, elevating it to the point where they explicitly or implicitly believe that it contains all of God's Word to us. Jesus is God's Word, and Jesus makes very clear what God expects of His followers: to trust God over and above seen circumstances, and to love other people! That's what puts the lie to homophobic professing Christians' selective use of certain biblical passages to "justify" and impose their hateful prejudices on others; their re-defining Christianity, and God Himself, in their own image, thereby using not only the Bible, but themselves, as their idols; ignoring Jesus' words, work, ministry, and life! The Bible is best viewed as a "finger" that points us to a couple of the many dimensions of God. What the biblical literalists do is equivalent to the following: If I ask you where you live and you point in a given direction and I just keep staring at your finger, I'll soon come to know everything about your finger, its size, shape, fingerprint, and every single detail about your finger, but I won't come any closer to knowing where you live. I have to look to the place where your finger is pointing in order to know where you live. The same holds true for those who elevate the Bible as being the "inerrant word of God." No! Only God is the Inerrant Word!

LGBT PEOPLE AS "EUNUCHS SO BORN FROM THEIR MOTHER'S WOMB."

For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb.... (Matthew 19:12)

I don't think any scholar who is truly spiritually sensitive can not see that "eunuchs so born from their mother's womb" refers to Gay and Transgender people who, on this earth, most closely reflect God Who is Spirit and Who transcends gender. LGBT people are God's gift to this world, and to His Church. Too many of the former largely reject that gift; Christ's Church, unfortunately, seems to comprise very few within the institutional Church.

THE CONFUSION OF "HEDONISM" WITH "GAY."

In my opinion, a distinction has to be made between "hedonism" and "Gay," and much public persona of Gay people, and the commentators on all too many LGBT-oriented sites, seem to be more hedonistic than Gay. Frivolity, indecency, and use of hateful epithets as self-identifiers tell us far more about them than it does about Gay people. They use "queer" because they feel "queer," and don't see being Gay in any other terms than being "indecent" and "abnormal." And many of them pride themselves on being outsiders! This reflects their psyches, and they are too dense to accept that fact, let alone change their rhetoric and self-perceptions. They resent anyone who tells them that they are not "mistakes," and that dignity is essential in living one's life, and they undoubtedly thrive on lack of such dignity. I learned a lot from a transgender woman, for example, when she resented the fact that I said that she wasn't a mistake! She tenaciously hung on to the fact that she is a mistake and resented any other possibility. The same is true for most Gay people who comment on assorted Gay-oriented sites. Blindly accepting the oppressor's rhetoric and actions has done inordinate harm to many LGBT people, and that's a great deal of what we must fight against.

FREDERICK DOUGLASS, AUGUST 4, 1857

If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom, and yet depreciate agitation, are men who want crops without plowing up the ground. They want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the awful roar of its many waters. This struggle may be a moral one; or it may be a physical one; or it may be both moral and physical; but it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will. Find out just what a people will submit to, and you have found out the exact amount of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them; and these will continue till they are resisted with either words or blows, or with both. The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress. Men may not get all they pay for in this world; but they must pay for all they get. If we ever get free from all the oppressions and wrongs heaped upon us, we must pay for their removal. We must do this by labor, by suffering, by sacrifice, and, if needs be, by our lives, and the lives of others.

A NOTE ON THE COUNTERPRODUCTIVE USE OF PEJORATIVE SELF-IDENTIFIERS

THE TEN COMMANDMENTS OF GAY RIGHTS ACTIVISM, BY DON CHARLES

1. Thou shalt not address thyself or thy kind with inaccurate, disrespectful or dehumanizing labels, nor shalt thou do or say anything to marginalize thyself or enable thy own oppression.

2. Thou shalt not treat thy moral crusade like a political campaign. Thou shalt not value the welfare of political parties over the welfare of LGBT folk, nor shalt thou bind the equality movement to any political party.

3. Thou shalt not disrespect transgender identity or transgender bodies, and thou shalt not kick thy transsexual brethren to the curb for political advantage. Thou shalt endeavor to rid thy movement of transphobia as well as biphobia, sexism, heterosexism, racism, sexual racism, ageism and class bias.

4. Thou shalt not defend, attend or fund any religious institution which preaches genocide against LGBT folk, and thou shalt pursue separation of church and state with all thy mind, heart and soul. Thou shalt directly confront religious institutions that preach LGBT genocide, and thou shalt use authentic, inclusive theology as a weapon against hateful doctrine.

5. Thou shalt not use the equality movement as thy vehicle for exhibitionism, hedonism, political ambition or self-promotion.

6. Thou shalt not excuse any form of inequality (such as exclusion from marriage or military service) on ideological grounds, and thou shalt not give LGBT equality less importance than other social issues.

7. Thou shalt vigilantly police media representations of LGBT folk for demeaning, ridiculous and vilifying portrayals, and thou shalt not fail to include Gay media in thy policings.

8. Thou shalt preach the gospel of comprehensive sex education. Thou shalt promote intelligent conversation about human sexuality, express thy own sexuality without shame, be considerate of thy sexual partners, and shun sex practices that are unhealthy, irresponsible or illegal.

9. Thou shalt access public and private education systems and use those systems to diminish fear and ignorance about LGBT people. Thou shalt not be turned aside from this goal by scurrilous accusations of "recruitment".

10. Thou shalt protect, nurture and serve as role models for LGBT youth, and thou shalt protect, honor and provide for LGBT elders.

Monday, May 21, 2012

USE OF "AFFECTIONAL ORIENTATION" RATHER THAN "SEXUAL ORIENTATION"

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